Hi Jen, Andrea, & Mollie:
Is it fixable? I think so. Elcie has had the same "advocate" since she started her orthopedically handicapped pre-school at 3. We're blessed that he evidently loves his job and has stayed with it. He deserves many stars in his crown.
He oversees educational needs for all the "Elcies" in the county. When there is a problem he deals with the schools so the parents won't have to. He and I have worked together forever. He's much too polite to say this is a crock of **** but he was as angry as I. He has the final say on anything that affects "reasonable accommodation". He and I agree that exemption from the attendance requirement fall into that category.
I got caught in the middle because he had talked to the teacher, not the administrator, when this first surfaced. The school called me and the battle began. It wasn't the first and probably won't be the last.
An IEP is the ongoing plan for her education. It spells out yearly goals, and lists all the modifications needed for her to attain them. Attendance was never included because it never came up before and shouldn't have this time. He's sure we can change the IEP. That will fix it although it may cause some hard feelings.
If I were 20 years younger, home school might be an option but I know my own limitations. I'm spending so much time with Rebecca now that I just can't do any more. Elcie's classes aren't the problem anyway and, except for one year, her teachers have been great. She's not disabled enough to qualify for in home study with a tutor. (Another blessing - I wouldn't want that for her.)
I'm just waiting now to hear from one side or the other before I go on to the next step.
Thanks for all your concern. I was afraid I might be overreacting and the reinforcement from all my invisible friends out there helps.